It's not just having lost Pete, but I can't see things improving with my Dad - in fact the NHS has just made him many times worse this year (he wasn't incontinent before all the hospital stays, for starters). Mum needs to put him in proper care really, but she doesn't want him to go, and she's terrified of all the horror stories she seen and read in the media - not to mention the fact that the NHS hasn't been much better than that. They'll have been married 59 years next month.
I am happy escaping to the sanctuary of my flat - with Tills - and don't have any desire to go anywhere else or leave her (I think she's got Dementia too, to be honest!) It's all the other stuff that I need to do that's a chore. Even my friends wanting me to "get out" is too much effort (although they have agreed to leave me be on New Year's Eve) - and I really need to get over to Pete's place and claim my stuff, what of his I want to keep and anything else before it all gets tidied into a skip. Trouble is, it's not my house to come and go as I please anymore...
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Date: 2011-12-27 11:22 am (UTC)They'll have been married 59 years next month.
I am happy escaping to the sanctuary of my flat - with Tills - and don't have any desire to go anywhere else or leave her (I think she's got Dementia too, to be honest!) It's all the other stuff that I need to do that's a chore. Even my friends wanting me to "get out" is too much effort (although they have agreed to leave me be on New Year's Eve) - and I really need to get over to Pete's place and claim my stuff, what of his I want to keep and anything else before it all gets tidied into a skip. Trouble is, it's not my house to come and go as I please anymore...